... To Spite Sue's Face

I have a big problem.  I like to cut off my nose to spite my face.  I do it all the time.  And I just can't get over the need to "make a statement" when I feel that I've been wronged.

I used to work with someone who liked to give advice and be a mother to her staff.  She was not one of the nurturing mothers we read about in child psychology books.  She was the type that we'd read about in Therapy journals, if you get my drift.

When I saw her recently, she hugged me and I didn't hug back.  Usually when someone begins to hug but doesn't get the appropriate respond, they let it go.  Not her.  Now I'm wondering what negative karma have I created.  Also, the training world is very small.

My family agrees that I should not have hugged back.  My family tends to be very individualistic.  What would you have done?  Is there anything I can do now?

Comments

[Laurie]

Hey, you were being genuine. There is nothing wrong with that. Don't second guess yourself.